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Dear KiKi: My Mother Keeps Pushing Food On Me. How Do I Get Her to Stop?
She won’t take no for an answer!
Dear KiKi,
I live in a small town and my mother lives right down the street. Our relationship has always been a bit complicated, but now that she’s getting older, I do spend time with her daily. The problem is, I am pre-diabetic and my doctor has told me I must lose weight, which I’m not very good at doing. To make a difficult situation even more challenging, my mom shows her love (or control?) through food. She will make homemade donuts, cake, pies, all kinds of treats, and insists I eat them when I visit her. If I don’t, I will not hear the end of it and she will berate me endlessly. It makes me feel ashamed and guilty—and I don’t want my mom to be upset with me. Plus it’s really hard to say no when her cooking is so dang delicious! I swear since I told her the doctor wanted me to get things in line and eat better, she has been going out of her way to make even more delicious sweets. I don’t understand why. Nobody understands how hard it is when she gets upset or how difficult it is to say no to her, and she’s all alone. I don’t want to stop visiting her and it is our tradition to watch our shows together at night. I just wish she would be more…
