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Dear KiKi: My Newly Divorced Friend’s Ex-Husband’s New Girlfriend Tells Their Daughters She Loves Them (and Wants Them to Say It Back!)

My friend is uncomfortable with this and doesn’t know what to do….

KiKi Walter
4 min readDec 27, 2021


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Dear KiKi,

I recently had my best friend(newly divorced) ask me what to do about this situation.

She left her abusive and alcoholic ex-husband. He did get the wake-up call with the divorce and now is in recovery, thank goodness.

They have two beautiful, young daughters, aged 8 & 5. Her ex-husband met someone and has allowed this new woman into the lives of the girls. This new woman has started telling the girls she loves them and asks for them to respond in kind. My friend knows this because she has heard it on FaceTime calls with their dad and the new girlfriend.

She is uncomfortable with this.

She is scared to address the issue with the ex-husband because they are not on good terms and she doesn’t feel like she can address it with the girlfriend because the girlfriend has no interaction with her whatsoever. (She hides in the bedroom when they do custody…



KiKi Walter

AKA "The Memoir Queen." Ki is the founder & co-publisher of The Memoirist, Age of Empathy, Black Bear, Dear KiKi, QuickTalk, The Mayhem, Songstories, and more.